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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by abfan123 » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:20 pm

I've got nothing against such people, But sometimes I fail to understand why would they tell to anyone about their "Sexual orientation".
Like, Ain't it better if you just won't know about this?
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Noyb » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:22 pm

You might just not want to bring the subject up, addonsfan. I'd say only talk about it if your friend brings it up. Just act like normal friends, and if he starts acting ****, just say something like "Please don't do that." That's probably what I would do, anyway...
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:32 pm

Noyb wrote:if he starts acting ****, just say something like "Please don't do that."
thank you, you just reminded me why I used to be so much against gays. it is their actions and reactions to certain things that I do not like. especially the feminine ones.

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Noyb » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:35 pm

addonsfan wrote:
Noyb wrote:if he starts acting ****, just say something like "Please don't do that."
thank you, you just reminded me why I used to be so much against gays. it is their actions and reactions to certain things that I do not like. especially the feminine ones.
And that's why I make fun of 'em. :mrgreen:
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:45 pm

oooh s'thop it! :lol:

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Noyb » Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:53 pm

addonsfan wrote:oooh s'thop it! :lol:
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by hornakapopolis » Thu Jan 24, 2008 8:05 pm

In a way, it's a shame you've decided against the day full of porn... as then it would seem simply courteous to let him return the favor the next day or weekend. Who knows, maybe after a day full of **** porn, you might decide that you'd like to be ****.

And in regards to "choice," I've never found Pamela Anderson or Carmen Electra attractive. Actually, I have absolutely no physical attraction to Pamela Anderson. I've always enjoyed the thought that we're supposed to narrow down our physical attraction to two sexes, but then it's still open enough to include about a billion people within that one sex.

The simple fact of it is, this guy is the same guy you knew January 22.

Also, I think most people consider the people coming on to them a reflection of themselves. That's why we didn't like everyone knowing the ugly chick in school had a crush on us... of course, I don't remember anyone ever taking the ugly chick in school out into the back alley and kicking the crap out of her... but maybe I was just sheltered.

Personally, I don't mind stereotypes. They make it easier for me to describe people that fit them. The problem I run into is when people start applying them with little regard. I'd bet most **** people don't think of all heterosexuals as being homophobic (which is a ridiculous term, too. How many people are actually "frightened" of homosexuals? Do you cross the street on dark nights when you see a guy coming your way blaring Barbra Streisand on his iPod?), so if anyone is really perpetuating a stereotype, it's not the guy who's **** and his friend never knew, it's the guy freaking out about it and wondering if he can have this person as a friend.

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Chef_Garry » Thu Jan 24, 2008 8:30 pm

:lol: good post!

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 8:47 pm

hornakapopolis wrote:In a way, it's a shame you've decided against the day full of porn... as then it would seem simply courteous to let him return the favor the next day or weekend. Who knows, maybe after a day full of **** porn, you might decide that you'd like to be ****.

And in regards to "choice," I've never found Pamela Anderson or Carmen Electra attractive. Actually, I have absolutely no physical attraction to Pamela Anderson. I've always enjoyed the thought that we're supposed to narrow down our physical attraction to two sexes, but then it's still open enough to include about a billion people within that one sex.

The simple fact of it is, this guy is the same guy you knew January 22.

Also, I think most people consider the people coming on to them a reflection of themselves. That's why we didn't like everyone knowing the ugly chick in school had a crush on us... of course, I don't remember anyone ever taking the ugly chick in school out into the back alley and kicking the crap out of her... but maybe I was just sheltered.

Personally, I don't mind stereotypes. They make it easier for me to describe people that fit them. The problem I run into is when people start applying them with little regard. I'd bet most **** people don't think of all heterosexuals as being homophobic (which is a ridiculous term, too. How many people are actually "frightened" of homosexuals? Do you cross the street on dark nights when you see a guy coming your way blaring Barbra Streisand on his iPod?), so if anyone is really perpetuating a stereotype, it's not the guy who's **** and his friend never knew, it's the guy freaking out about it and wondering if he can have this person as a friend.
I don't find it physically possible for me to end up liking **** porn. just thinking about it kinda makes me wanna go hook up with some random girl. but I do get your point, and my friend probably feels the same way.

I actually don't find Pamela Anderson very attractive either... I think she went kinda overboard on the boob job, and that turns me off to a girl right away.:lol: who knows, it was probably girls like this that turned my friend off to girls all together.

I would have to disagree with one small thing you said though. he is the same guy I thought I knew January 22nd. he's still the same person I helped to get a date for a school dance, he's the same guy whose back I had when my white friends decided to pick on "beaner boy", and he's the same guy I lent $20 to, to get his California ID. but he's not the same guy that used to check out all the hot girls with me, and whistle at the really hot ones. it feels like we have one less thing in common, which happens to be a really big thing.

when I matured a little bit more, I didn't mind the ugly chicks liking me. I used to stick up for them, but I wouldn't touch them (as in go out with them). it felt ok when an ugly girl came on to me, which has happened more than once, but when a guy comes on to me?? that just doesn't feel ok.

and I agree "homophobic" is a ridiculous term, I just don't know a word to describe how I feel when being around **** guys. I guess I'm afraid of them coming on to me, and doing something stupid without thinking it over... I'm afraid of what my reactions might be, and where they might land me. sometimes, it just feels like reflex, and I'll do something completely stupid without thought... which really is no excuse.
hornakapopolis wrote:so if anyone is really perpetuating a stereotype, it's not the guy who's **** and his friend never knew, it's the guy freaking out about it and wondering if he can have this person as a friend.
this is what I agree with the most. I guess the problem is more me than my friend, but I just don't know how I could accept it. I guess I need to work on it a bit.

thanks hornakapopolis, you never fail to teach me something. :D

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Noyb » Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:12 pm

addonsfan wrote:thanks hornakapopolis, you never fail to teach me something. :D
A smart man, he is. :)
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:27 pm

Noyb wrote:
addonsfan wrote:thanks hornakapopolis, you never fail to teach me something. :D
A smart man, he is. :)
that sounds familiar. :roll: :wink:

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Noyb » Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:40 pm

addonsfan wrote:
Noyb wrote:
addonsfan wrote:thanks hornakapopolis, you never fail to teach me something. :D
A smart man, he is. :)
that sounds familiar. :roll: :wink:
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by darth » Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:42 pm

Addonsfan, Down the road, maybe you should consider the military as a career. the military policy of "Don't Ask Don't Tell" , might give you some protection against this type of issue.
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by ronnycopeh » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:33 pm

I just had to jump in here, but why would you think he'll come to you, All **** people just like all ladies are not attracted to you. He just though maybe you was his friend and by the way he's not sick and need help but just have a different life style.
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:38 pm

he needs help, if he's going to avoid the prejudice people in this state. I've had his back up until now. I've fought next to him... and idk if I'll be able to have his back any longer, because him bein **** is going to open a whole new room of people that might not like him. idk if I'll be able to defend him. another thing I just realized is that if I defend him, then those people are going to start giving me problems.

I thought he was coming on to me, because he kept complimenting me... and finaly I said, "wtf? what's wrong with you? you're actin weird"... and that's when he told me he was ****. just the way it happened seemed like he was coming on to me.

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by ronnycopeh » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:41 pm

Since he decided to come out I assume he reading to tackle the world but it depends on the area, some are not as bad but anyway he has a good friend
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:44 pm

I try to be a good friend to all of my friends whether they're black, mexican, fat, stupid, or anything... but **** is a new one. and it's a little confusing for me. I can already see it's not going to go well. I know there's going to be many problems. I just really hope he hasn't told anyone else but me.

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by ronnycopeh » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:53 pm

My friend you just made the point, I do hope he has told the whole town, and don't worry he'll be okay and you will too but not as friends. Its amazing how things happen to bring out true friendship. enough said about this!
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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by addonsfan » Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:56 pm

no... you don't understand... idk how things work in Florida, but as a friend of this guy... I REALLY hope I'm the only one he's told.

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Re: kinda freaked out

Post by Pip » Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:22 am

addonsfan wrote:I try to be a good friend to all of my friends whether they're black, mexican, fat, stupid, or anything... but **** is a new one. and it's a little confusing for me. I can already see it's not going to go well. I know there's going to be many problems. I just really hope he hasn't told anyone else but me.

I suspect **** may not be as new to you as you think. You probably just aren't aware of it.....and I suspect you may not treat all your friends the same or you wouldn't be highlighting the fact that they are black, mexican, fat, stupid and so on. A true friend wouldn't even notice that. Too bad!

I wonder.........if your friend is aware of your membership/activity here on the Avant Browser forum and, if so, if he is reading and painfully aware of your feelings.

My thought...........he obviously thought you were a better friend that you are.........and that he was able to confide in you. I guess he probably should not have done so.

This is a pretty public place to be discussing this stuff.

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